I am an INTJ (borrowing from Myers & Briggs Type Indicators). I tend to favor my inner world, draw conclusions between information, like logical decisions, and stick to a structured environment. Not absolutely cast in concrete, but these are my preferences.
When it comes to relationship, I look for constant growth. Meaning, a strong relationship would engage the elements of learning, evolving, and growing. And the interactions involved would lead to renewal and not deadend.
To some, I may come across being practical minded, utilitarian, and, at times, insensitive to others’ feelings. They may view my interactions in a relationship as transactional, devoid of emotions, and not caring.
Nothing can be further from the truth. Relationships are important to me. I try to hold on to them and look for ways to improve. I remember people’s birthdays, anniversaries, or other significant events. Often people get surprised to receive a note from me on such occasions.
But, I readily acknowledge and admit there are rooms for improvement. My intention however positive would be entirely useless if not perceived as such. Better articulating my feelings and perhaps more importantly, cultivate my relationships in a way that fits my INTJ preferences are what I can work on.
What are your preference in relationship? Got suggestions? Please share.