Patience, Part 2

Part 1 here.

A few days ago, I came across this quote:

Empathic listening takes time, but it doesn’t take anywhere near as much time as it takes to back up and correct misunderstandings when you’re already miles down the road, to redo, to live with unexpressed and unsolved problems ~ Franklin-Covey

Empathic listening, according to Stephen Covey, author of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, is the skill of listening and responding with both the heart and mind to understand the speaker’s words, intent, and feelings.  A critical but often overlooked skill, myself included.

Of course, the empathic listening takes more efforts (and time).  But what caught my eyes from the quote above is that in the grant scheme of things, the alternative is actually worse.  In other words, we can’t afford not to be patient and listen empathically especially when the relationship is important.

A wise investment that is worthy of reminding.

 

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The Price We Must Pay

It has become blatantly obvious (to me at least) that America elected the wrong person last November into the White House. I don’t know who would be the right choice. But after holding out hope for three and a half months, this is what I concluded:

We got ourselves an incompetent, unprincipled con-man as president.

This is the same man who wrote the “The Art Of The Deal”  but is being played by Putin, et. al.  He has no clue on how to govern, and worse yet, his cronies reinforce it.  Shall we say the emperor has no clothes?  Further, he tweets to attack whomever he does not like.  The list goes on. This kind of the behaviors is unbecoming to the highest office of our land.

I admit that hindsight is 20/20. But I feel like Sisyphus every time seeing reports that validate our fateful mistake.  Sure there are core supporters who feel otherwise & will defend the president to the end, just like those with Nixon.That’s okay, we have a democracy.

And this is the price we must pay.

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Too Close For Comfort?

Big news of the day is James Comey, FBI Director, in lieu of serving his full term till 2023, has been terminated from the job yesterday  by President Trump.

The rationale given by the White House was that Comey handled Clinton email investigation poorly during the 2016 presidential campaign LAST October.  Quite a stretch from the truth.  The real reason of course had to do with the president himself.

I wrote about James Comey and the FBI investigation on the Trump-Russian connection in March.  Since then the investigation has gathered momentum with Federal prosecutor issued a grand jury subpoenas to associates of Michael Flynn, former National Security Advisor, seeking business records.

[Late breaking news: the Senate Intelligence Committee has issued a subpoena today to Michael Flynn himself.]

The ultimate question, borrowing from the Nixon’s Watergate, is “what did the president know, and when did he know it?”  Perhaps Trump is feeling the walls closing in on him and decides to change the course of the investigations, just like what Nixon tried to do during the Watergate investigation.

As I have written before, Trump is a magnet for controversies and his own worst enemy. What is there to fear if he has not done anything wrong?  Either way, we are all bearing witness to a history in the making.

Stay tuned.

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What Is Trump Trying To Do?

What is the end goal? lining his own pocket

What is the strategy? As much as he can

What is the message? It’s disgusting

I think I will call him – Corrupted Donald

If you have a different take, please share.

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Me And My PDA

One day I caught my mobile phone doing something on its own – “accelerometer calibration.” Of course, that might be just the tip of the iceberg, considering all the updates that are happening in the background without my knowledge.

But this is exactly my point.  My mobile phone has earned the coveted spot as my personal digital assistance.  It has my trust.  Yet, is it cheating on me?

You see, I use my mobile to “Ask Google” on how is the weather, directions to places, converting euro into dollar, etc.  I carry it everywhere except the shower.  But even then, it is not far. Seriously, I am not alone. Google reports that 87% of Millennials always have their smartphone at their side, day and night.

Naturally with such intimacy comes trust. Because my mobile knows my every move. The aforementioned accelerometer detects if I am driving, walking, or stationary. And it knows where I am via GPS.  Not to mention, I divulge lots of info about my interests through the “Ask Google” . . .  You get the picture!

In other words, my mobile reads my mind, my intentions, and my preferences. But, and this is a huge BUT, I am not sure if my trust is not being manipulated. When those personalized products or services pop up on my mobile unsolicited, I suspect my smartphone maybe smarter than I am giving it credit for.

How much do you use/ trust your mobile phone?

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Week In Review – 7 May 2017

Easy to mistaken that we are the center of the universe as I welcomed the month of May this week.  The warming weather and seasonal transition here in Washington D.C. is opposite of those in the Southern Hemisphere.  A phenomena that continues to amaze me.  Maybe a trip there will help me cement the fact.

A few other facts of life included patience (or lack of), inertia to change, and our insatiable appetite for pushing the limits.   Life is such a wonderful gift.  It offers abundant opportunities to quench one’s thirst for knowledge especially with social media as an enabler.

Two examples on such learning I shared were how to tell  one’s life story and letting go. Socrates said, “the unexamined life is not worth living.”  While a bit harsh, Socrates does have a point about reflecting on our own experience.  Life is what you make of it.  So why not being more grounded to make the best of it.

Have a good week.

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2.00:24 – Marathon Time!

Following up to my previous post, the Nike’s Breaking 2 project was today.

Eliud Kipchoge of Kenya finished a marathon distance of 26.2 miles in two hours and 24 seconds. A world record!

While the sub 2-hours goal remains, Eliud has brought the goal line closer.  Only a matter of time.

Below is the highlight of the last 3 kilometers of the Eliud’s run. Enjoy.

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You Win Some, You Lose Some

Today I lost my debit card.  Odd thing was how it happened – within 15 minutes between the bank and the store.  Talking about being absent minded.  What was I thinking in that short span of time? “Oh how I was going to use this card!”

Needless to say, I spent way more time afterwards, back tracking from the store to the bank (where I had the card) and back to the store again.  I looked all the spots where my mind was playing the rewinds on possible places I could have “dropped” my card.

Imagine my frustration. I was the antithesis of mindfulness, in-the-moment kinda person.  The fluster got me so worked up that I finally decided to cut my lost and moved on. I figured that losing my debit card was bad enough. Did not want to let that incident ruin the rest of my day.

What did I win?  If there was a silver lining in today’s “episode,” I would attribute to my decision to let go.  Instead of crying over the spilled milk or allowing myself be dragged down a negative spiral, I was able to recover the rest of my day.   Which turned out pretty well.

Do you attribute winning or losing to your successes and failures or the decision you make regardless the outcome?

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How To Tell Your Life Story?

Whether you are a story teller or not, when it comes to the question of “tell me about yourself,” it is one story that you can’t miss.  Who else would be in a better position to talk about your own story?

But as many of you have experienced, this question is not as simple as it seems. Manifested in real world interviews, applications, or other conversations, this question can trip us if not prepared.    Articulating the story, besides its delivery (which is important), requires it be organized, logical, and engaging.

Organized – your story evolves around your life, or part of your life that is suited for the circumstance.  Getting organized means first layout a timeline of  your life or lifeline as some would call it.  The lifeline captures your major events and milestones from birth to now. Next, select the relevant pieces to tailor to the situation at hand.  Operative word is “relevant.” Which will be easier after you had constructed your lifeline in writing.

Logical – the relevant events from your lifeline need to fit together to support your story.  They create the flow. No gaps, disconnects, or contradictions that raise concerns. Everything fits smoothly.  If you do have course correction or re-direction along the way, that is okay.  Life is not perfect.  Key is to make sure there are sound explanations for them.

Engaging –  putting it all together.  To “sell” your story, you need to engage your audience.  Easy to say, but it is another to come across convincingly.  How to make it convincing?  Work backward by putting yourself in your listeners’ shoes. What are their interests? values? and  end goals?  Fit your story pieces to match your audiences’ needs.

With these elements covered in your story along with practices (lots of them), you will become the best story teller of YOU in any situations.

Have other tips or suggestions on telling your story?

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Inertia

Change is a popular topic of discussions as many folks look for change to their circumstances.  That’s how we got weight watchers, alcohol anonymous, and Donald Trump, among other things.

Inertia, the flip side of change, however is less talked about.  It is the resistance to change and directly related to mass.  Larger the mass the greater the inertia.  Since a rhinoceros has more inertia than a mouse, it is harder to get the rhinoceros going than the mouse.  Similarly, once the rhino is moving, it is harder to stop.

For us humans, fear creates psychological inertia in our mind.  Greater the fear, harder the change and more likely to stay status quo.  This may explain the recent ABC News/ Washingtonpost poll on President Trump’s first 100 days.  Where Trump is viewed as better than both the Republican and the Democratic Party.

Thus, to increase success in effecting change, let’s start with inertia.

What inertia do you carry?

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