Certainly everyone is different, including our President Trump. This is why there were winners and losers in his proposed 2019 federal budget. Because the budget reflects his priority.
No mourning for the losers please. So long as the president is clear on his agenda, he can find space in his conscience, and care less about any conflicts that others perceive. After all this is his administration.
And in case that you missed the Chinese New Year on Friday, the 16th, don’t despair. The celebration goes on for two weeks (at least in China). Never too late to join the fun.
Have a nice week.
In the classic television sci-fi series Star Trek, Captain Kirk calmly introduces those words at the beginning of each episode as he led the crew of the starship Enterprise in searching for new life and adventure in the outer space.
There is another space, I call it the inner space – our personal domain ready for exploring. This space is multi-dimensional: mental, spiritual, emotional, etc. Each offers infinite wisdom if and only we are willing to embark on the adventure.
To me, this inner space is the true final frontier. Why? You ask. I give you Einstein’s Theory of Relativity and Beethoven’s fifth symphony as proofs that while the physical world is akin to a laboratory, it is the inner space that holds the key to our discovery.
Remember, the ability to create inner space is limited only by our imagination. So boldly go where none has gone before. And discover your final frontier.
What is your final frontier?
Conflict in life is not only common but also unavoidable. Hollywood is known to make dramas out of human conflicts (e.g. hero and villains).
In real life, each individual is different. Chance of us getting cross-threaded happens more than Hollywood can imaging. How then do we deal with these conflicts so we too can have an happy ending?
First, people-to-people differences notwithstanding, the struggles within ourselves is more telling. Whether it’s love-hate, optimism-despair, or work-life, the root cause(s) can be traced from the inside out. Try the following questions:
What exactly is important? Is there a priority? What about your values?
Answering these questions may not guarantee happy endings. But surely, without getting an handle on them, we would be hard-pressed to deal effectively with others.
Do you think the life’s conflicts get minimized or multiplied as we mature?
Despite our similarities, each of us operates from our own frame of references, set of values, and filters. Safe to say that no two individuals are identical. And frustration results when we talk past each other.
To connect, according to Stephen Covey, one must seek first to understand. This is however easier said than done. It is more than just listening better. Here are three suggestions that can help:
- Seeking to understand has to be sincere – a genuine desire to put oneself in other’s shoes. Listening with the intent to reply is not a genuine understanding.
- Seeking to understand by withholding one’s own natural tendency to evaluate, to probe, or to interpret. Listen like a sponge, soaking it all in. No value judgement.
- Seeking to understand requires patience. Understanding happens in measured steps. Drip by drip, gradually. Not in gulps. True understanding can’t happen in a flash.
We all have interesting story that is worthy of discovery. Take that step by seeking first to understand. Do it sincerely, genuinely, and patiently, then there is a better chance for connection.
Do you understand enough about the other person in communicating? Have you tried? How?
in the President Trump’s proposed 2019 budget, according to the Washington Post:
Veterans’ Affairs Small Business Administration
Defense Environmental Protection Agency
Homeland Security State Department
In a nutshell, this president is big on Defense and skimpy on small business, environment, and foreign allies.
Do you agree with the President’s priorities?
Where is home? sounds simple, but it is an important question. Specifically, an important but not urgent question. Because home gives our heart a place to belong.
Lately that place for my heart has been drifting towards a warmer climate. A sign perhaps that the Washington’s political circus is getting to me? I hope not.
Deep down I admire leaders who exhibit grace under pressure. Unfortunately, this has been in short supply of late. Or maybe it is just the devil in me.
Have a nice week.